- Social Science
The vibrant manifesto on our need for friendship in the modern world.
Our best friends, gal-pals, bromances, Twitter followers, Facebook friends, long distance buddies and WhatsApp threads define us in ways we rarely openly acknowledge. There is so much about friendship we either don’t know or don’t articulate: why do some friendships last a lifetime, while others are only temporary? How do you ‘break up’ with a toxic friend? Can men and women really be platonic? And maybe the most important question: how can we live in the most interconnected age and still find ourselves stuck in the greatest loneliness epidemic of our time? It’s killing us, making us miserable and causing a public health crisis. What if meaningful friendships are the solution, not a distraction?
Kate Leaver’s much anticipated book argues that friendship can cure the modern malaise of solitude, ignorance, ill health and angst. She looks at what friendship means, how it can survive, why we need it and what we can do to get the most from it. From behavioural scientists to best mates, Kate finds extraordinary stories and research, drawing on her own experiences to create a fascinating blend of accessible ‘smart thinking’, investigative journalism, pop culture and memoir.
‘Kate’s a brilliant Australian journalist. Her look at friendship as a central component to our increasingly isolated and lonely lives really interests me from a social perspective; why are we so disconnected when we’re so connected?' The Guardian, What You Should Read in July
‘The Friendship Cure is here to make us love our girl friends all over again… you’ll want to buy it and give it to all of your friends immediately’ Evening Standard
‘Honest and insightful… an excellent read’ Gemma Cairney, BBC Radio 1
'A lovely, lively look at the importance of friendship as an antidote to loneliness' Cathy Rentzenbrink, author of A Manual for Heartache and The Last Act of Love
‘A gorgeous book and a reminder of just how intense and special female friendship is’ Emma Gannon, author of CtrlAltDelete
‘Witty, relatable, thought-provoking. If Jon Ronson and Marian Keyes morphed into one magic person and wrote a book, this book would be it’ Rosie Waterland, author of The Anti-Cool Girl
‘I’m calling it: Kate Leaver is the new Jon Ronson’ Rosie Waterland, author of The Anti-Cool Girl and Every Lie I’ve Ever Told
‘Kate Leaver's book is a wide-ranging exploration of what friends mean to us – full of rich personal insights and commonsense, accompanied by a good dose of science’ Robin Dunbar, author of How Many Friends Does One Person Need?
‘A really gorgeous, affirming book which makes me want to find the people I love most in the world and hug them very, very tightly’ The Pool
‘Leaver has read extensively, interviewed therapists, academics and scientists, spoken to friends and friends of friends and send out random interview requests on Twitter… she combines all this with her own experience of friendship’ Evening Standard
'Enlightening, relatable, funny, witty and above all... thought provoking and inspiring... Leaver's writing style is lovely – easy to understand, funny and warm. Indeed, I feel like she could easily become a friend of mine!' On:Yorkshire Magazine
‘Packed full with very attainable goals for all of us, from our political leaders and policy makers, to the teenager who is just discovering who they really are and who they want to be. With Leaver’s own personal stories mixed throughout and her own personal take on situations, The Friendship Cure has something for everyone… It is a manifesto, a declaration of ideas, an opportunity for us all to take back control of our relationships with our friends, our health and ultimately our happiness’ Swirl and Thread
‘Examines friendship in the modern world in all the myriad varieties that it occurs... anyone who has friends will benefit from having read it... if [Leaver's] friendships are as profound as this book, then that is one friendship I wish I had’ The Mantle
‘Fresh and thought provoking… talks about connection and loneliness in a way we need to hear’ Evening Standard
‘This is the type of book which could be an ideal gift to the right sort of friend in your own life’ Rosie Amber, blogger
‘Kate is an incredible writer and journalist… this book is an absolute gem to reflect on your relationships and personal behaviour’ Sandrine Vaillancourt, blogger
PRAISE FOR KATE LEAVER
‘Kate's mixture of wild and stupendous imagination, emotional intelligence and honest human approach in her writing strikes chords’ Gemma Cairney, BBC1 Radio
‘Kate has a lightness of comedic touch and flair that most writers would kill for. I can always count on her to make the serious stuff funny and readable, and the actually funny stuff even funnier still’ Zing Tseng, Broadly Editor
‘So many of Kate's pieces get a huge response because they are so painfully and beautifully frank and yet so warm… and I find myself reflecting on them for a long time afterwards’ Emma Gannon, author of CtrlAltDelete and blogger at girllostincity.com